“Change Yourself And Change Your Life”
Desire vs. Need…
Most of the things you think are “needs” in your life are really “desires.” Most of the things you struggle for, most of the things you believe you NEED, are really just DESIRES.
Here are some things you NEED. Breathable Air, Shelter from weather, Water to Drink, Food… not as much as you think.
Everything else is just a DESIRE. Everything else is just about QUALITY of life. The other “needs” we think we have are simply a matter of degree.
For example, I need shelter to protect me from the elements. But the quality of that shelter is a matter of opinion or degree. It could be a house, or a tent, or a cave, or a tree, or a bush, or a hole in the ground.
Compare your needs with the needs of the people in Third World Countries that we see on TV. Our “needs” are very different from theirs, because we perceive those needs to be different.
Simple things that we take for granted are missing from their lives. They would laugh if they heard you state that you “needed” a new car or “needed” a better job, or “needed” more money in your bank account or “needed” more love from your spouse.
They fight to survive… we fight to improve our position in life relative to those around us. Even the homeless in our country live more comfortable lives than many, many folks in embattled or famished lands.
Why am I talking about this?
Because, if you recognize the difference between your desires and your needs, you will be more likely to achieve the things you desire.
By throwing away the concept of “need,” we make the quest for the things we “desire” less desperate and more likely to succeed.
It also creates more choices. “Need” tends to have only one source, whereas “desire” has many more options and is not life threatening if it is not achieved. The risk is reduced and so is the fear.
Here is another common example. You think that your spouse or partner does not give you the love you need… in whatever form it is that you “need” it.
The perceived lack of this love creates anger, tension, feelings of neediness, feelings of resentment, feelings of helplessness, feelings of being at someone else’s mercy.
You may think that you are experiencing all of these negative feelings because your partner doesn’t give you the love that you need. You think that if you could only get that need fulfilled by them or by anyone, you would be whole again.
Does any of this sound familiar?
Do you expect someone else to fulfill your needs? Do you expect someone else to make you happy?
If you do, you are probably not happy… and if you do and you are happy… you are probably not going to be happy for long.
Am I being negative here? Am I being a pessimist?
I don’t think so. I’m just trying to make the argument that YOU are responsible for your own life, for your own desires, for your own “needs.”
When you understand that the things you “need” from your partner or spouse are just “desires,” you understand that those desires can be filled in other ways. You are no longer a slave to those “needs”... instead, you are a seeker after the “desires” you value most.
Suddenly, you are in control because you understand that your life doesn’t end without the things you previously thought were “needs.”
Taking control of your life is the core of everything I teach. Taking control of who you are, what you want, who you want to be with, how you want to live, who you want to work for, where you want to work, when you want to work…
In short… taking responsibility for who you are and what you do. I just happen to teach it by showing folks how to invest in real estate.
Understand that you make the decision, either consciously or unconsciously to take or give away control of your life.
If it is a conscience choice, if you take responsibility, if you make the choices… you are fulfilling your desires, not just struggling to fulfill your needs.
Well… I’m not sure if I’m communicating anything to you here. I’m not a shrink and I’m certainly no priest, but I talk to people everyday who are making an honest effort to take control of their lives… or at least a part of it, so it gives me some insight.
You’ve got to start somewhere. I think it is easier to start in a business like real estate because the methods are concrete and real. You can follow certain principles and succeed almost every time.
Relationships, on the other hand, have a lot more variables and are harder to navigate. My theory… take it for what it’s worth… is that by fixing one part of your life, the other parts will be easier to fix in the future.
Success in one area of your life can lead to success in another if you follow the same basic principles that got you there.
So… to wrap it up…
Free yourself from pain by realizing that you don’t NEED all of those things you think you need, you DESIRE them.
... and there is nothing wrong with desire!
But when you know that they are desires, you seek them with less fear and a higher chance of success.
When you succeed in one thing, it is easier to succeed in something else… even if that next thing is more complicated or difficult.
Learn the basic method of one type of success, the type you get by taking personal responsibility and you will have discovered the method of success in all areas of your life.
This is why I push my students so hard to focus on just one thing and succeed at it…. then, and ONLY then, move on to the next thing.
My DESIRE for you, is that you find success in your life in the upcoming year… that you take personal responsibility for who you are and what you want.
I hope you honor me with the opportunity to help you get there by joining my coaching program, but to be honest with you, how you get there is irrelevant… it is that you get there that matters.
You have my warmest regards,
Joe Crump
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If you haven’t checked out Joe Crump’s “$0 Down Real Estate Investing With Bad Credit And No Job!” yet, go to his web site for full details.
Real Estate Course
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Most of the things you think are “needs” in your life are really “desires.” Most of the things you struggle for, most of the things you believe you NEED, are really just DESIRES.
Here are some things you NEED. Breathable Air, Shelter from weather, Water to Drink, Food… not as much as you think.
Everything else is just a DESIRE. Everything else is just about QUALITY of life. The other “needs” we think we have are simply a matter of degree.
For example, I need shelter to protect me from the elements. But the quality of that shelter is a matter of opinion or degree. It could be a house, or a tent, or a cave, or a tree, or a bush, or a hole in the ground.
Compare your needs with the needs of the people in Third World Countries that we see on TV. Our “needs” are very different from theirs, because we perceive those needs to be different.
Simple things that we take for granted are missing from their lives. They would laugh if they heard you state that you “needed” a new car or “needed” a better job, or “needed” more money in your bank account or “needed” more love from your spouse.
They fight to survive… we fight to improve our position in life relative to those around us. Even the homeless in our country live more comfortable lives than many, many folks in embattled or famished lands.
Why am I talking about this?
Because, if you recognize the difference between your desires and your needs, you will be more likely to achieve the things you desire.
By throwing away the concept of “need,” we make the quest for the things we “desire” less desperate and more likely to succeed.
It also creates more choices. “Need” tends to have only one source, whereas “desire” has many more options and is not life threatening if it is not achieved. The risk is reduced and so is the fear.
Here is another common example. You think that your spouse or partner does not give you the love you need… in whatever form it is that you “need” it.
The perceived lack of this love creates anger, tension, feelings of neediness, feelings of resentment, feelings of helplessness, feelings of being at someone else’s mercy.
You may think that you are experiencing all of these negative feelings because your partner doesn’t give you the love that you need. You think that if you could only get that need fulfilled by them or by anyone, you would be whole again.
Does any of this sound familiar?
Do you expect someone else to fulfill your needs? Do you expect someone else to make you happy?
If you do, you are probably not happy… and if you do and you are happy… you are probably not going to be happy for long.
Am I being negative here? Am I being a pessimist?
I don’t think so. I’m just trying to make the argument that YOU are responsible for your own life, for your own desires, for your own “needs.”
When you understand that the things you “need” from your partner or spouse are just “desires,” you understand that those desires can be filled in other ways. You are no longer a slave to those “needs”... instead, you are a seeker after the “desires” you value most.
Suddenly, you are in control because you understand that your life doesn’t end without the things you previously thought were “needs.”
Taking control of your life is the core of everything I teach. Taking control of who you are, what you want, who you want to be with, how you want to live, who you want to work for, where you want to work, when you want to work…
In short… taking responsibility for who you are and what you do. I just happen to teach it by showing folks how to invest in real estate.
Understand that you make the decision, either consciously or unconsciously to take or give away control of your life.
If it is a conscience choice, if you take responsibility, if you make the choices… you are fulfilling your desires, not just struggling to fulfill your needs.
Well… I’m not sure if I’m communicating anything to you here. I’m not a shrink and I’m certainly no priest, but I talk to people everyday who are making an honest effort to take control of their lives… or at least a part of it, so it gives me some insight.
You’ve got to start somewhere. I think it is easier to start in a business like real estate because the methods are concrete and real. You can follow certain principles and succeed almost every time.
Relationships, on the other hand, have a lot more variables and are harder to navigate. My theory… take it for what it’s worth… is that by fixing one part of your life, the other parts will be easier to fix in the future.
Success in one area of your life can lead to success in another if you follow the same basic principles that got you there.
So… to wrap it up…
Free yourself from pain by realizing that you don’t NEED all of those things you think you need, you DESIRE them.
... and there is nothing wrong with desire!
But when you know that they are desires, you seek them with less fear and a higher chance of success.
When you succeed in one thing, it is easier to succeed in something else… even if that next thing is more complicated or difficult.
Learn the basic method of one type of success, the type you get by taking personal responsibility and you will have discovered the method of success in all areas of your life.
This is why I push my students so hard to focus on just one thing and succeed at it…. then, and ONLY then, move on to the next thing.
My DESIRE for you, is that you find success in your life in the upcoming year… that you take personal responsibility for who you are and what you want.
I hope you honor me with the opportunity to help you get there by joining my coaching program, but to be honest with you, how you get there is irrelevant… it is that you get there that matters.
You have my warmest regards,
Joe Crump
**********************************************
If you haven’t checked out Joe Crump’s “$0 Down Real Estate Investing With Bad Credit And No Job!” yet, go to his web site for full details.
Real Estate Course
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